I want to talk for a minute about something that I think is a core trait of being a good man and of being a strong man in this world. I think it's the joy of exhaustion. I think that there's a sort of sadistic joy at the end of the day when you are so beat you can barely keep your eyes open. Then you lay in your bed and you're out instantly. You sleep a deep dreamless sleep and pop up the next morning and do it all again. I think that that is a core competency, a core trait of what it means to be a good man in this world.
I think that often times, at least in our society in America, we want luxury (when I say we, we young men age 20 to maybe 35) We want to be pampered. We want the finer things in life. I know this because I used to live in Seattle if you don't know, the average man in Seattle spends close to $3,000 a year on hair and personal hygiene products. I think that's an incredibly feminine thing to do. An incredibly unenriching way to spend your money and your time, to focus narcissistically on the way that you look.
I think that a much more beautiful, and a much more manly, and a much more generative and useful trait for the world, is to find your satisfaction not in massaging cream in your beard and getting your haircut just so for $150 bucks but rather to work so damn hard that when you lay your head down at night you're asleep instantly.
The joy of exhaustion.
Go out, chase it, discipline yourself, master yourself, and make yourself chase down whatever it is that you want out of this life and don't pause. Don't take a nap this evening. Don't relax, don't stop, just keep pushing, driving, and you'll know when you hit that place. That place when you're falling asleep sitting up, that's where you're going to find true satisfaction as a man.